Feeling the Pressure?


Feeling pressured and want to overcome it?

I've missed writing an advice blog post! It's been a while, but I'm back and better baby.

Do you feel pressured to always be on top of things but on the inside you know that you're barely coping? Same, I get you. It's not easy pretending that everything is okay when it's not. This is something that I learnt the hard way and that I'm still trying to work on. I hate making others upset but when it comes to myself, I'm the last person that I worry about. Weird right? I can't help but put my feelings last to ensure that everyone else is feeling better than I am. It shouldn't be like that at all.

This isn't healthy. It's really damaging in the long run as trying to undo years of putting yourself last isn't as simple as it seems. The funny thing about this is that no one puts more pressure on you other than yourself. It's actually mad how that works out. The brain is a powerful weapon and is a force to be reckoned with. I cannot tell you how many times I have battled with myself in my head.

In reality, this is dangerous and I hope that people are starting to see the signs. Telling someone "oh no pressure" is so triggering. It really does not help or diffuse the situation at all.

What I would suggest doing is to clear your mind. I do this by writing lists. Anything that I need to do or remember is either written down on the notes app on my phone, on a sheet of paper that I stick to my wall in my room or in my diary (usually used for remembering things on a weekly basis). I do this so that I'm not constantly thinking about 101 things. This helps figure out what needs doing and when.

Don't let others force you into completing your own tasks on their time. This usually comes in relation to family, friends and work. A lot of the time other people can expect you to be on their level and they can pressure you without releasing it. Example, imagine going shopping with friends. There's always that one person that can whizz through the shops with ease whereas you need just a bit longer. Can you relate? I can and sometimes you just need more time to be happy with your selections (that and you're not looking to return half the stuff you bought due to lack of time).

Make sure to give yourself some time if you need it. If things are getting too much, take a step back and re-evaluate what is important at that present time. I cannot stress how important this is. Sometimes you just need to take a break, again I learnt this the hard way. I didn't give myself the time of day until it got past the point of me being physically well to do anything. Trust me you don't want to get to that stage. It's not pretty and it takes a while to bring yourself back to your "normal" state.

I'm not sure what spurred me to talk about this, I just felt like I needed to cover this in the hopes that one person took something from it. I'm still learning about working on self-pressure and how to overcome it. The years that I spent putting the whole world and more on my shoulders have really affected my day-to-day life, but I'm hoping that taking this step will help me in the long run.

"Nobody works better under pressure. They just work faster."


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