Don't let your failures overcome you.

I found myself staring at my laptop screen 10 times longer than I usually do when trying to start out a blog post. This post, in particular, made me think about certain times in my life where I really allowed my failures to takeover and completely knock me down.

Recently, I've been taking some time to remember certain failures that I've had and how I dealt with those. If I'm being honest, I didn't deal with them - I gave up. I hate failing at whatever task I have set myself up for. I know I can do it and hearing that someone's telling me it's wrong or that I've failed breaks my heart and knocks my confidence dramatically. One major example is my driving test (which I've already spoken about in my last blogpost here - quite a good read if I do say so myself 😉).

Failure isn't a bad thing, in fact, it's probably something that everyone should go through at least once or twice. Failing certain things in my life not only allowed me to build myself up again but to view my failures in a different perspective. Whether it’s physical, social, emotional, or otherwise, failure calls our attention to an area of our lives we need to work on. It’s really one of our best teachers. By allowing failure to win, you are giving up all the fight that you have to come back stronger than ever.

Failure is based on the fear of not being able to succeed. I was terrified that if I failed at something it would then create a domino effect and ruin my life. Sounds dramatic I know, but everything I do is connected to one another. For example, if I failed at a job interview this meant that I would have no money to live on, meaning bills can't be paid and so on. I always think ten steps ahead so making a mistake and failing at the early stages messes up my entire ten step plan. We need to remember that fearing failure doesn't equal to the end of the world. It just means we need to get back up and start again. As hard as it may seem, it's what we were born to do. Failing allows you to learn the mistakes you made and alter them so when you try again, you do end up succeeding with high results.
We have to push through the hard times as there is light at the end of the tunnel. You can’t lose your nerve for the big failure, because the nerve you need for the big success is the exact same nerve — until the moment you know which one it’s going to be. Not before.

"If you don't fail, you'll never learn and if you don't learn, things we'll never change."


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