Friends & Friendships.

I love my friends as much as I love my family. Over the years, I have had so many friends come and go throughout my life and it just proves to me who I can & can't trust.

Ever since secondary school, I've had a "big" group of friends that I would speak to and always be around with everyday. Once we broke up and finished school, we all vowed to stay in contact after we parted ways. What a crap idea that was. I don't understand why I spent 5 years of my life learning the insides & out's of some of my "friends" for our to friendship to just disappear once school ended. Why is that? Why couldn't I just look at certain people and just assume that we won't be friends anymore down the line and cut out the awkwardness there and then. Bearing that in mind, I can't say that I tried to keep in touch with everyone. I didn't reach out to a lot of 'friends' once I left school and entered college. This was the same with going to Uni also.

Now even though that sounds a bit harsh, it's not just only me who has felt this way. If I could talk to everyone I would, but sometimes my interests with certain people were never there once school was over. The only thing we had in common was going to the same school and sharing the same friends. Once that ended, what friendship did we have left to continue with? People say that Uni is where you make your friends for life. I disagree with the statement as I have made friends for life back in Primary School, Secondary School AND College.

By applying to University, I knew that it was going to be such a big change and I already knew that I wouldn't have enough time to keep in touch with EVERYONE, so I had to have my limits when it came to friendships. Although by saying this, I slyly contradict myself here when I can happily say that I have kept in contact with one of my best friends from Primary School. Since then, it has been a whole 14 years that we have continued being such great friends.
Now that's what you call a friendship.

I love that even though it has been many years since we've known each other, that first day friendship is still there. It's great to keep friends from when you were little, but it's also healthy putting yourself out there and making new friends. Knowing myself, I don't find this too hard. In fact throughout my first year of Uni I was called "Miss Social" in my flat as I would easily talk to anyone and begin a conversation with someone random just like that.

It's not easy doing this. I don't even know where this confidence comes from - I've just always had it in me I guess. To me, I think it's because I went to University alone. I knew no one and that forced me to start talking to new people. As hard as it may seem, it's so worth it. I would rather start socialising with new people everyday than stick to only talking to my old school friends 24/7. By doing this you're restricting yourself from meeting such great people. The fact that I can say I've spoken to many people from multiple countries is amazing. It's not everyday speak to someone in the UK, sometimes branch out overseas guys. People who live abroad are such interesting people & what's even better is that they think that you're SUPER INTERESTING for living in the UK! Crazy right?

What I'm trying to say is that sure it's okay to keep in contact with friends from your school days, but to build a friendship with someone new is a much greater feeling in my opinion.

"Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave & impossible to forget."

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